And I was shocked by the results.
Not just by the rating itself. But by the words they chose to determine it.....
Yikes! I can't fucking believe I used the word gay seventy-seven times and the word asshole only once.
I mean gay is about me and my brothers and sisters. But what about my enemies? Don't tell me I write seventy-seven times more about us than I do about the homophobes. Fuck me. I'm gonna have to do better than that....
And BTW how the fuck did they miss the word fuck?
Which made me wonder whether it's Mingle's rating system that is fucked....so I decided to give it a little test...
Surely I thought, the gentle and creative gay blogger Mark at Slap Upside the Head had to get a better rating than me. Right?
Based on his use of the following words:gay (16x) slap (7x) gays (4x) lesbian (1x)
Which I think proves CONCLUSIVELY that Mingle's criteria are not just fucked they're HOMOPHOBIC.
Or as the Great Old and Very Unrepentant Hippie suggests....the fix is in.
Which kinda pisses me off. Because one of the big reasons I blog is to help gay kids under seventeen. Bullied kids like these.
Almost two thirds of homosexual pupils in Britain's schools have suffered homophobic bullying, a survey suggests.
Almost all of those had experienced verbal bullying but 41% had been physically attacked, while 17% said they had received death threats.
Isn't that a crime? And just remember that in Canada it's worse. We're not doing enough to tackle the problem...because most Canadians don't care enough.
Apart from writing to idiot politicians and school boards, I can't do much for these poor kids either. All I can do is attack their enemies...write about what I went through... encourage them to seek out support groups...tell them to be strong and proud.... that the bullying will end some day ....love will find them ...and everything will be ok. It's not much....pathetically little....but at least it shows I care.
So I hate to see a dating service that turns gay into a dirty word just like the bullies do...
"Ninety-eight per cent of young gay people hear the phrases 'that's so gay' or 'you're so gay' in school, and over four fifths hear such comments often or frequently."
......telling gay kids they shouldn't read our blogs. Huh?
I mean how could I pass on Simon's Little Gay Life Lessons? Like the one I prepared for today...pay attention kiddos...
Always remember..that anyone, or any group or organization, or any church or government, who tells you that gay is bad is not only REALLY BAD...but sicko crazy and should be ignored.
Remember that gay is beautiful. YOU are beautiful. Homophobes and bullies are evil bastards. Having to fight them is our curse.... and our glory.
And of course that Mingle is moronic...and in desperate need of a software overhaul. But you knew THAT. Lesson over.