Saturday, July 07, 2007
Is it Time for MY Gay Marriage?
I must admit when I read that only ONE Canadian gay couple had got married in Toronto so far this year.
And that the religious freakazoids were already calling it another reason to scrap gay marriage
This would seem to strongly confirm past charges that the political and legal campaigns which successfully and dramatically changed the institution of marriage in Canada were ultimately about nothing more than forcing acceptance of homosexuality.
At first I was angry....and then I felt guilty.
Angry because these religious fanatics really are so CRAZY EVIL. First they warned that it was TOO MUCH for society to bear. That it would destroy the nuclear family, lead to doggy marriage and polygamy, turn rivers to blood and cities to salt. Now that it's quietly fitting in to the Canadian fabric...they say it should be scrapped because it is TOO LITTLE. If that isn't twisted I don't know what is.
And guilty because I felt like I was letting our side down. I wondered whether after almost nine years of living with Sébastien as a common law couple, it was time to take the plunge...for the good of the team.
And help give marriage in this country another boost. Because it needs all the help it can get.
But then I thought of those cake toppers....(Ugh)
And I quickly came to my senses....
The truth is I supported gay marriage because it was a question of equality. Gay couples deserve a choice just like straight couples do. But I can't get excited about it myself.
Maybe it's because I associate even civil marriage with religion and possession. Although the Amazing Beep showed in a recent post how the churches really stole the idea.
Marriage existed prior to the jewish version, the christian version or the islamic version. Religions do not OWN the concept of marriage. They have just formalized a natural process of pair bonding into their respective religions and tried to convince us that no other type of marriage except the ones they espouse, are allowed to exist.
Or maybe it's because I'm a romantic and believe that if love can't hold a couple together nothing can. Or just lazy...common law and things like a shared medical plan...work just fine for me.
Or maybe like some gay friends I know, years of bullying, oppression and hate have left their hidden scars on me. Made me feel like I'm not good enough. So I can't really believe that someone could really love me...or want to marry me. Even if they tell me they do.
I don't like to talk about love. It just makes me feel awkward and embarrassed.
What I love about having a lover is what you DON'T have to say to each other....
On the other hand I do plan on living with him for the rest of my life. So when one of Sébastien's best friends told me recently he thinks Big Boy would LOVE to get married ...something WE never talk about... it did make me think...the unthinkable...
Hmmm....you know what? It really isn't a big deal....if it would make him happy....I would be happy too. And if we can double the number of gay Canadians getting married in Toronto just by ourselves...and make the priestly perverts even more miserable than they are...maybe when he gets back in a couple of weeks I'll surprise him and pop the question.
Wouldn't that be WICKED? (Gulp)
Although if I do go through with it....and I'm not saying I will. I mean where are all those slutty queens who are always inviting me to their three-MONTH trick anniversary parties? Shouldn't they be getting married first?
But if I do....I will have to put my foot down.... so the other boys don't think I'M the bride....
I do promise to dress up for the occasion...and to try to look duly solemn and not laugh too much.....and he MAY kiss me after I sign my life away. But there will be NO cake toppers or Céline Dion or Madonna music at the party afterwards. It's one thing to be embarrassed....and quite another to be humiliated!!!!!
And above all....even if he feels like flying to the moon... he mustn't say he loves me....
Coz after making the ULTIMATE sacrifice for him....
I just might believe him.....
But now it's time for ME to fly away. Love is on the horizon, the marriage train may or may not be coming my way. But summer is RIGHT NOW!!
Up with love... gay or straight...married or unmarried. It's all beautiful.... it's all human. It's all the same thing.
Down with the hideous hatemongers who would destroy it!!
Have a great summer everyone!!!